“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” — Pema Chödrön
I was reading "The Gates: The Great Untold Prerequisite to Getting What You Want," one of Teal Swan's most recent articles, where she introduces the concept of gates as the personal transformation tied to embracing our hardest truths. She emphasises that to achieve our deepest desires, we must confront the challenges we've been avoiding. This resonates with my own journey, as I’ve long understood that the only one who can rescue me is myself. Teal talks about how our personal growth is intrinsically linked to facing these challenges; each gate requires us to confront aspects of ourselves we’ve ignored or fled from. In my own experience, I recognize that the path to healing isn't linear; it’s filled with experiences I’ve often tried to sidestep. A current example of my ongoing conundrum lies in the intersection of parenting and earning income. The desire for financial security has been something I've carried with me since childhood, rooted in my experiences and the lessons I learned growing up. In recent years, I've been living in rental accommodation, and that along with my increasing age has made me acutely aware of the need to increase my income if I want to afford to get back on the property ladder. This financial reality has left me wrestling with my next career steps. On one hand, I feel a strong pull toward my passion for writing—sharing my insights, experiences, and lessons learned. On the other hand, the pressures of financial stability often overshadow that desire, creating a tension between pursuing what fulfills me and meeting practical needs. This internal struggle mirrors the “gates” we’ve discussed; each obstacle becomes a chance to reflect on how I can harmonize my financial aspirations with my passion for writing. I often find myself contemplating how to navigate this path, balancing the need for security with the urge to express my authentic self through my writing. It’s a challenge that requires me to face my fears about financial instability while also embracing the potential that comes from following my heart. As I reflect on this, I can see that each challenge shows up like a “gate” I have to pass through to show up authentically, even when it’s uncomfortable. Viewing these obstacles as opportunities for growth connects deeply with my reflections on personal development, guiding how I interact with my daughters and the people all around me. Moreover, her metaphor aligns beautifully with my writing journey; each blog has documented the lessons learned through personal struggles—be it co-parenting, grief, or emotional resilience. Writing not only helps me stay accountable to this process but also marks each gate I pass through as a pivotal moment in my evolution. This week, as I reflect on the profound milestone of publishing what is my 500th blog, I realize that what began as a quest to find my voice has transformed into a conscious journey toward a more authentic version of myself. Each blog has served as an invitation to evolve, offering insights into everything from navigating challenging emails to processing the deep grief of losing a loved one. From my first blog, Be Who You Are, I explored the theme of authenticity as a process of peeling back layers of external expectations to reveal one’s true self. My ongoing reflections have illuminated how life’s challenges act as mirrors, encouraging me to confront and shed societal conditioning. Through this journey, I’ve delved into relationships as vital mirrors, examining both the dysfunctional dynamics I've encountered and those I’ve sought to transform. In the early years of my writing, I focused on self-awareness and authenticity, diving into how our experiences shape us. These early blogs embraced curiosity and philosophical questions about identity and mindfulness, often conveyed in a lighter tone. However, the passing of my mum introduced deep reflections on mortality and the grieving process, perhaps leading to more depth in my writing as I navigated my grief and developed more emotional resilience. As my journey progressed, I began to confront my shadow self and the impact of unresolved childhood wounds. This exploration of trauma and self-acceptance perhaps added a vulnerability to my writing. I gained a deeper understanding of personal trauma, illuminating dysfunctional relationship patterns, and moving from abstract concepts to intimate, lived experiences. My writing grew more practical, offering strategies for healing and empowerment as I reflected on the importance of boundary-setting and emotional regulation. More recently, I’ve shifted my focus to reflections on personal mission and fulfillment. This stage feels like a blossoming, and tends to be grounded in action and manifesting a purposeful life. Throughout the whole journey so far, parenting has remained a consistent theme, weaving through all my writing. The dynamics of childhood trauma, grief, and personal purpose have shaped my experiences as a mother, as has motherhood itself. In this evolving landscape, my understanding of my children’s needs and the importance of setting boundaries has deepened. I’ve candidly reflected on the emotional complexities of co-parenting and the role of self-compassion in navigating separation. Additionally, I shared my journey with panic disorder, illustrating how personal health has influenced my evolving understanding of healthcare and the broader dialogue around holistic systems. While my writing has consistently reflected themes of mindfulness, personal growth, and emotional awareness - laying the groundwork for deeper explorations of authenticity - I’ve also dived into broader societal concepts. As I look back over the years, from my early blog "Better Brand and Bottom Line" to "CEO’s Note: Profit, Purpose and Personal Fulfillment Can Thrive Together," my work has always sought to inspire, challenge, and connect. And my 2018 article "What to Do if You Feel Trapped By Your Circumstances" resonated so deeply I was inundated with requests for advice on practical steps toward reclaiming one’s power. In exploring my connection to metaphysics and intuition, I found parallels in my broader work on authenticity, trauma, and personal growth. As I write this 500th blog, I am reflecting on childhood conditioning in pieces like "Who Are You Protecting? Why Telling Your Story Is Powerful," and "Womanhood: A Story of Our Time," which were among my most vulnerable so far, revealing the intricate layers of pain, shame, and hope - culminating in a powerful narrative of reclaiming beauty and embracing our full selves for future generations. As I celebrate this milestone, I invite you to reflect on your own journey and the everyday invitations life offers for growth, understanding, and connection. Consider the challenges you've faced and how they have shaped you. What are the "gates" in your life that have urged or are urging you to confront difficult truths? How might viewing these obstacles as opportunities for evolution shift your perspective? By embracing these moments, we not only honor our personal journeys but also connect with the shared experiences that unite us all. Join me in celebrating our growth and resilience, as we continue to navigate the intricate dance of life together. If you enjoyed reading this, you may enjoy Your Childhood Is Not Your Fault but It Will Be Your Limitation, Making Room to Reflect – Why Processing Time Matters, The Art of Learning to Have and Hold Boundaries Healthily When Healing From Trauma Responses and Do We Need to Better Understand the Pivotal Role of Parenting to Evolve? To be the first to receive these posts, you can also opt to subscribe to my blog.
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