You Are Perfect - That Doesn’t Mean You Shouldn’t Change

We have come to view perfection as an end state, something that can’t be superseded in any way. Yet, given that nothing – zero - in this life is permanent, how can anything remain perfect? Is it time to redefine the way you see yourself in relation to this unattainable goal of perfection?

What if you came into this life already perfect? There are many who subscribe to the idea that they have to be or achieve something in this life, to grow in some way. What if you just came for the ride? What if there is nothing you need to be, do or have in order for you to be perfect just as you are?

Often I hear my partner sigh as he heads to work, he’s frustrated because he’s not yet where he wants to be. But that is today’s desire. Today he is right where he wanted to be yesterday, metaphorically speaking. Frustration is just the feeling that tells you there is a new desire in the works.

You would think we would have enough evidence in our lives by now to show us that we are in a permanent cycle of wanting, allowing and having. Look at your own life, what has changed in the last 10 years? What has happened in your relationships, career, finances and heath? Chances are, some things will be the same, but a lot will also have changed.

So it makes sense we should have enough faith that, whatever we are frustrated about will come to pass, in fact it will likely be part of our journey to better things. Yet we struggle with it, hold ourselves up against some impossible measure of perfection and feel that we are somehow failing.

In recent times I’ve come to understand the power of the subconscious mind, and how it is rooted in early times in our lives where we recognized well meaning guidance and discipline as strong messages that we are less than perfect.

You have spent most of the rest of the time between then and now gathering many millions more examples of just how imperfect you are. Some of us show that imperfection to the world, others maintain a shield around it; it doesn’t much matter, it all has the same roots.

If you are feeling less, understand that you are more. Certainly with all the layers of beliefs you have wrapped around yourself since the moment you were born, you are likely to be an overburdened version of yourself.

Learning to listen to your inner wisdom rather than the voice in your head is the single fastest way to bypass those layers. Your emotions are the perfect instrument of guidance in this. If you think something about yourself and then feel bad about it, I guarantee that thought is not true.

Case in hand, if you think you are less than perfect and – as a result – that is causing, say,  anger, frustration or depression, that is your inner wisdom telling you the thought pattern is not true. In contrast, your mind will be automatically stacking up the evidence (all that stuff stored in your subconscious) and you will probably be falling for it again.

The best way to change is to see the perfection of who you are, where you are and the guidance you have within you. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, try out some reverse thoughts until you find one that feels better.

When I started publishing articles I’d get hung up on how many people engaged with them and, if numbers were down for a long period, I’d wonder perhaps I wasn’t meant to be a writer. That thought didn’t feel good, I enjoy writing, so one day I decided to change my thought to “there are people who are waiting to read what I write, and place value on it”. It feels better and it’s true.

In your state of wanting and creating new things, there’s no need to use their absence in the moment as some sign that you are less than perfect. Get over it; you are perfect, you just need to be more conscious of those thoughts in your head and how they are making you feel. If they feel bad, keep trying until you find a thought that feels better, that is the healthiest change you can make.
 
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