An Open Letter to an Old Friend

Hello old friend

Many years have passed since we last talked, but I have thought of you often along the way. As I wonder how life has unfolded for you, I reflect on the many lessons I have learned since we were last together.

I have learned that life is a series of moments, and that there is only ever is the present moment and what we make of it.

I have learned to become more consciously aware of my thoughts and feelings, and use them to guide me to my best life.

I have learned the fruitlessness of trying to control people and circumstances in order for me to be happy. I still recall the meltdown I had in the destruction and removal of the old cast iron bath.

I have learned that you can never be good enough to make someone else happy. Happiness is an inside out job.

I have learned that my only job is to reach for the feeling of wellbeing in any given moment.

I have learned that life is not meant to be spent largely in pain in order to gain; pain should be a fleeting moment of contrast upon which you act selfishly to find your own harmony.

I have learned that unless you are feeling your own harmony, you have nothing useful to give anyone anyway.

I have learned that our children come knowing their harmony, and how to find it, and that we unwittingly – in our intentions to teach them how to be good and fit in - cut them off from who they really are.

I have learned that parenting teaches many rich lessons.

I have learned that children are focused consciousness, learning how to operate in a physical world.

I have learned it takes the first 21 years of our life to operate fully in our body, from a physical, emotional and mental perspective.

I have learned that most people are unaware of the stages and needs of children in each phase of development.

I have learned that the irony of learning to live in a physical body in a physical world, is we have to then rediscover our true eternal nature, our connectedness and our wellbeing, which is not physical.

I have learned that there is a hard way to do things, and an easy way. You can either live life from the outside in, mapping your path to every goal, taking determined action; or you can live life from the inside out, making your feeling of wellbeing the most important goal you ever have, trusting that all you desire will be brought to you in a series of unplannable steps.

I have learned that you will always have all the money you need, and that you do not need to sacrifice in order to have it.

I have learned that people who are hurt can do hurtful things in seeking their healing. Yet I understand we would never attract hurt unless it was a reflection of our own state of being too.

I have learned that we each are part of a whole, connected, with our every thought and action affecting each other and the greater consciousness.

I have learned that most people seem completely unaware of their connection to everything else, and I have learned to orientate to those who feel their connection most strongly.

I have learned that being in love is something that happens when someone reflects back to you the love your inner being has for you.

I have learned that every feeling is a reflection of our state of connection or disconnection.

I have learned that every physical manifestation is also a reflection of that same inner state. There is no single illness with a physical cause, only physical patterns. Look deeper.

I have learned that the only marriage vow that would make sense is the one that gives each person the freedom to be who they are, even if that means being somewhere else, with someone else in a future moment.

I have learned that there is a diamond in all of us, a beautiful light that shines when we are connected with our true source of wellbeing.

I have learned not to balk at that which some call God. While the idea of any separate entity who can exact judgment or impose anything upon any one being does not ring true, it’s the universal lessons taught by the teachers exalted that resonate.

I have learned there is no one truth, only the truth that rings true for you, the truth which leads you on a path to your own wellbeing.

I have learned that I am a most imperfect being who constantly needs to practice all the lessons I have learned.

I have learned that I can interpret the greater energy I sense, and to trust the messages that reveal themselves. I have learned to embrace that strange phenomenon and the fact that it makes me kind of weird.

I have learned that you may be in bondage to pain my friend, and I hold for you a space in which you can surrender to the wellbeing that wants to prevail. It requires less strength and has much to offer. Do not be scared, fear is a function of the mind only.

I have learned that learning about life and living it in the best way possible is what interests me most. My wish for you, is to discover a truth that helps you find your own way to your best life. You deserve kindness. You deserve happiness. I reflect back to you what you gave me.
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With love always.